What doesn't feel like the right fit for you?


Is there something in your life that doesn’t feel like the right fit?

Sometimes what we’re doing is not a great fit.

Like me and ballet.

I don’t know whose idea it was, I’m not trying to lay blame here, but somehow around the age of 7, I was in ballet.

I liked the black leotard and pink tights.

I liked the part at the end of class when we got to run across the room and do a giant leap in the air.

The rest of the class, not so much.

It wasn’t much fun when I couldn’t get the hang of a pattern. Madame Gérard would take me by the hand and in front of everyone, try to teach me the steps.

Yeah. That worked really well. My legs turned to Jell-O and my brain froze in those moments.

Frozen Jell-O in a black leotard and pink tights. That was me.

Sometimes I would hide in the basement of the ballet studio until class was almost over. Then I’d magically appear when it was time to do the grand leaping.

In spite of myself, I kept at it. Somehow, I became good enough to be in a performance.

Now don’t get too excited, I was hardly Clara in The Nutcracker.

I was a leaf in a hedge. Yep. That was me.

Another year I was a Christmas tree.

I wore a triangular green dress and had a matching green felt cone perched on top of my head, held on by an elastic chin strap.


The older girls got to wear tutus. They were real ballerinas.

Then one day Madam Gérard called my house. I happened to answer the phone.

She wanted to speak to my mom to see if I’d be coming back next year.

I didn’t see any need to get my mom.

I was done with being foliage.

Even though there were aspects of ballet that I liked, it was not ultimately a great fit for me.

I traded the ballet studio for hanging out in the stable with horses. Riding became a great fit.

And much later, I found a love for partner dancing. You won’t see me on Dancing with the Stars – ever – but gone are the frozen Jell-O days.

Is there something in your life that doesn’t feel like the right fit?

 It could be your job setting, your career, a relationship, the place you’re living or something else.

Here are a few questions to consider:

How long has this (fill in the blank – job, career, relationship, city) felt like it’s not a good fit?

What have you tried to do to make it a better fit?

Do you want to keep trying to improve this situation?

Do you want to accept it as it is or try to find something better?

If you found something that was a better fit, how might it change your life?

When practicing medicine started to feel like it was not the right fit, I spent the next 4 ½ years trying to make it better. Things did get better, but I knew there was something else I was supposed to be doing.

Helping physicians has turned out to be a much better fit for me. It feels like Dancing with the Stars. 

If you want to make some changes in any area of your life to find that right fit for yourself, do it. Make yourself a priority. It’s not selfish. You’ll have more to give to others when you are in sync with who you are and what is calling to you.

And if Madame Gérard calls, you’ll know what to say.

“Til next time, A very Happy Thanksgiving to all of you!


PS. If you missed the blog on the difference between being selfish vs. self-full, you can read it here. 














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  1. Lisa Tener on November 21, 2019 at 12:03 pm

    I had a similar ballet experience! Glad that’s over!

  2. Heather Fork on November 21, 2019 at 12:44 pm

    I feel for you Lisa! I’ld love to hear your story! Thank you for reading.

  3. Jasmin I on November 21, 2019 at 1:05 pm

    Another great blog post! Funny and authentic! Thank you for the reminders:)

    • Heather Fork on November 21, 2019 at 4:22 pm

      Thank you Jasmi for another great comment from YOU! Hope you are doing well and enjoying things that feel like a good fit for you.

  4. Lynette Charity MD on November 21, 2019 at 2:28 pm

    I had a good fit as an Anesthesiologist until it wasn’t. I had been practicing for 30 years. However, it took another 10 years to finally quit. I had no Plan B. But I did transition into a “new” fit which is an adjustment, but with a few alterations may be what I’m seeking. We shall see. And in regards to other “baggage”, I’m slowly but surely ridding myself of THAT also.

    Thanks again Dr. Heather for your insight. You keep me focused.

    • Heather Fork on November 21, 2019 at 4:27 pm

      You are so welcome Dr. Lynette! Thank you for always sharing these windows into your own journey and how you are figuring it out as you go along. Your transition into speaking and comedy is a great example of trying something new and finding out what fits in that picture and what you want to do differently. Fit is usually a work in progress. We change, circumstances change. What fit yesterday may feel uncomfortable today. I’m excited to see where this next year takes you!

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