Do I Need to Leave Medicine? One Physician’s Story


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Dear readers, I am honored to share with you an inciteful and powerful story by one of my awesome clients.  

When you tell people you are changing jobs, they want to know why. Many people will even ask, “Are you going to make more money?” or “Is this a promotion for you?” They don’t know how to react when the answer is, “No.” I make less money than I did two years ago. I am not the boss. I don’t have a title. Yet I am happier.

This concept would be so foreign to the younger me. Since high school, it has always been about the next step – college, medical school, internship, residency, that first job, that better job, more responsibility, more money, more prestige. At each step I was unhappy, yet I struggled through because I just knew that happiness would come when I reached the next level.

Two years ago, I had everything the world had taught me that I should have: more money than my parents ever did; freedom to run my practice the way I wanted; a directorship position and a chief of staff position. But I wasn’t happy. How could that be? I had checked off all the boxes in life, delayed gratification for years and found emptiness at the end of it all. Since my usual way of handling dissatisfaction was to force my way through to the next better thing, I just assumed that I needed to progress to a new level. Without realizing it, I was looking for more ladders to climb. I was so used to the constant “what’s next?” that I could not enjoy the now.

I enlisted the help of Heather Fork with the idea that I would find this great new career path. Certain that she would steer me into administration, medical writing, or some exciting new field, I jumped in with both feet and worked hard on the process. I was excited about the idea of developing new skills and succeeding in a new area. What I found instead was that I was in the right career but had lost sight of what I liked about it. With a little thinking about who I am and what I like, I could see the times in my career that I did enjoy what I was doing.

It turns out that I didn’t need to keep climbing; I needed to go back down! I have always enjoyed the basic work of my specialty, but my current position did not allow much of it. I was isolated, I was not working on interesting cases, and I felt as if I was not really making a difference. I knew I needed a new practice setting. So I set about looking for a new job.

The best thing I ever did was let go. I put in the work – got on LinkedIn, built a network (or rather, discovered that I actually had a network), bought a new suit, buffed up my CV, and applied to at least two dozen positions. Then I let go. Spending my life forcing the next step and searching for the perfect position had brought me nothing. This time I would let the process flow, and I would flow along with it.

The second best thing I ever did was to change my standard of living. All my chasing after more and trying to live the American dream had boxed me into a lifestyle that kept me reliant on my current job. It is easy to look back now and see that the level of joy in my life has never correlated with my income level. So I made some major lifestyle changes in anticipation of up to a 30% pay cut. Incredible freedom comes from living below your means and it opens you up to many new career opportunities.

I went on three interviews. Interestingly, of all the positions I applied to, all the fantastic letters I wrote, and calls I made, the only interviews I got came through someone in my network.

My first offer came through a nearby group. I would not have to move and it seemed the perfect opportunity. But as I looked it over and thought about this group, I found myself saying things like, “Well I guess I could live with that” or “I would just have to learn to do without this.” It dawned on me that I was forcing it. It didn’t feel right – it didn’t flow. So I turned the job down.

Then I was offered an interview in the “perfect” city, with the “perfect” group. I interviewed and thought this is it; this is where I will be. But I was not offered the job. I briefly thought that this flow business may not be working.

My next interview came from a friend of mine from residency. The thought of working for him was intriguing but I only took the interview out of respect for him. This job was very far from home, in a very different part of the country. The city didn’t exactly sound exciting either.

The interview went very well. I can’t explain it, but it felt right – I felt the flow. This would be a job with a good friend of mine and other, like-minded colleagues. The workload would be heavy, but interesting and worthwhile with a lot of support. After two weeks of sleeping on it, I called and accepted the job. Not two hours later, the second place I interviewed with (the “perfect” one) called me again. I was told that now they wanted me. They offered me a better package than my friend’s group. I really thought about it. I hadn’t signed anything, I could easily accept the new offer; but that would have been forcing it. I was resolved to let the process flow, so I told them no thanks.

So here I am, no longer in charge, just another guy doing work that I enjoy with people I like. I look back now at the whole process and think that had I not taken the time (with Heather’s help) to learn about what I really like and why I was unhappy, I would have forced a solution that was not in line with my true self. The biggest change I made was not changing my job, moving 1200 miles away or getting back to the basics of my specialty. It was a change in my attitude. I have learned to stop and enjoy the now. I am also starting to look for ways to incorporate some of my other interests into my job. I have had a desire to do something creative and to teach. So over the past year I have experimented with a couple of writing and speaking projects and have had the opportunity to do some mentoring. It is nice to know that I can do these things without completely changing careers. This new job is great but not perfect. No job is, so there is no need to always think about it and look for it. I may not be here forever, but I am here now and that’s what counts. At some point, the flow of life may take me somewhere else: but I’m going to let it be a surprise.



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  1. Amie Langbein on February 17, 2016 at 12:13 pm

    What a beautifully articulated inspiring journey ! Thanks for sharing it!

    • Heather Fork on February 17, 2016 at 3:20 pm

      On behalf of the author, thank you very much for your support and kind words Amie! We appreciate your reading and commenting.

  2. Lynette Charity MD on February 17, 2016 at 3:13 pm

    Wow! This doc literally took the words out of my mouth, expressing similar feelings I’ve had on my journey away from medicine only to return because I truely love what I do. But now I’m happier because it’s on my terms. I’m working with colleagues I respect. I found a niche in my profession that called to me and I answered. When I wanted to leave medicine, I thought “the grass would be greener”, however I learned that it was just “a different kind of green grass”, but not “better”. Giving up on an over 30-year career was not necessary. I just needed to make it “evolve” with me as I aged and found meaning in other endeavors other than medicine. I am now a cyborg, albeit a happy one. Heather and the writer, thank you for your insight. This made me feel better about my decision to return to medicine.

    • Heather Fork on February 17, 2016 at 3:29 pm

      Thank you Lynette, for your enthusiastic comments and sharing your own experience and perspective. It is incredibly helpful for other doctors to hear about real-life examples of physicians finding fulfillment IN medicine, in these difficult times. As you know, because you did it yourself, it takes time and effort to explore options, do the soul-searching, and come to your own understanding of what is best for you. If one is willing to be open to the process, and believe there are solutions, solutions will be found. No one needs to feel trapped. I’m very happy for you that you came back full-circle to your love of medicine and being a doctor, because how many singing anesthesiologist are there out there anyway?

  3. Ashley Bloodworth on February 17, 2016 at 6:26 pm

    That was truly inspiring and great. Unfortunately I’m in the same position but a dermatologist and I want out of medicine and the fear of being sued and all the government and insurance hell that goes along with it. I’m only 45 practiced 8 yrs but had detoured earlier. I love the old practice of medicine and have been blessed with the ability to work with my dad the entire time. I want to finish 10 years so I don’t have to pay the $10000 tail end for liability but I take too much time with people and am too sensitive that I will miss something and have never felt that confidence I should. I don’t make but around $100,000 and it is an older practice I have zero intention of doing EMR. I am completely lost. I am very artistic and love learning. I don’t know what to due and it’s been really depressing.
    Sorry so negative I am a usually upbeat person

    • Heather Fork on February 18, 2016 at 9:56 am

      Thank you, Ashely for your supportive comments to my client’s post. I am sorry to hear you are struggling so. Often, people do not understand why a dermatologist would be unhappy. “Don’t dermatologists have it good?” others may ask. The truth is, it is impossible for anyone judging from the outside to know what an individual is experiencing in his or her situation. As a former dermatologist, I am sure people thought I must be crazy to sell my practice after 9 years. There were great things about being a dermatologist, and it is a wonderful speciality, but it can be challenging if, as in your situation, you are experiencing a lot of anxiety and are too sensitive. Without having to leave, there are some ways to work with those things to help in the short term, even if you still want to leave. And while you are working, it is a good time to begin exploring your options. There are ALWAYS options. It can feel overwhelming since there is no clear-cut path to a next career as there was in medicine but there is a process one can follow with concrete steps. The advantage is, you get to follow what really resonates with you, and not a set plan that has little flexibility. Please don’t lose hope. Many have felt lost as you do right now, but they made it out of the dark forest and are very happy.

  4. Sara Taylor on February 17, 2016 at 9:21 pm

    Thanks to your client for sharing their story. As a physician working in physician health, I think it is important in certain situations to explore that physicians may still like what they do, just not how they do it. Sometimes leaving medicine may seem like the only choice but it is certainly worth exploring what the physician’s challenges are in the hopes of reclaiming their joy in medicine.

    • Heather Fork on February 17, 2016 at 9:51 pm

      Your comments are appreciated Sara. From looking at your website,, I can see that you care very much about physician wellness and fulfillment. A big thank you to YOU for posting helpful blogs and dedicating your time and knowledge to this most important area. I am sure you help a lot of physicians lead happier lives in Canada and elsewhere. Keep up the good work!

  5. J. David Waller MD FACC on February 18, 2016 at 5:06 am

    Excellent! That’s me. I have moved up and up and have a huge practice, extremely high patient satisfaction scores, serve as chief of staff, and love serving in administration activities. Everyone in the community seems very happy with me except me. People and patients in the community come to me daily and for that I should feel honor but lately there has been a mix of honor and feeling put out. I fight the urge to begin that “what about me” thinking. My issue is I just don’t how to break free. I’ve been praying for years now to know not only how to break free but also how to let go. This story encouraged me and while I don’t have my personal answers I like hearing that there is another way.

    • Heather Fork on February 18, 2016 at 9:28 am

      Hello David, thank you very much for reading and commenting. I just read a very nice article about you, and it mentioned that you are an honorary state trooper for Georgia! You obviously have dedicated a huge amount of your time and talents to helping others. It is perfectly reasonable – and VERY IMPORTANT to think of your own needs and wants, and trust that there is a way to honor yourself that will also work in the big picture. I find that when doctors make their own health and happiness a priority, those around them benefit as well. You end up still sharing your gifts, but the work is more sustainable and you find your joy again. You don’t need to know HOW it will work out, just start with a commitment to listen to yourself, and don’t disregard or discount your feelings. If we can get a man to the moon, we should be able to enjoy our work.

  6. Craig Glaiberman on February 18, 2016 at 9:41 am

    Fantastic story and very applicable to my situation too. If I may share;

    “Flow” is a great way to describe the process of letting go and allowing the journey to mold to your desires rather than forcing the “appropriate” next step. This is in antithesis to nearly every doctors inner being. Taking control, being assertive, being decisive, and making your own way is how one gets to be a physician. Totally against the grain to let go as your client did.

    I like the Zen saying; “leap, and the net will appear”. Scary and reassuring all at the same time.

    While I have not directly used Heather’s advice, I have been reading these blogs and emails over the years. I too have been struggling with how to change my outlook, expectations, and job. There is no easy answer. After 13 years of specialty practice, I have recently done the same thing. I reduced my work schedule to 50%, took a pay cut, and networked with friends. I now volunteer my expertise at the nearby veterinarian teaching hospital and am taking on an ever increasing role in teaching and developing my specialty within veterinary medicine. It is refreshing and invigorating to do what I love and help create a new service within a related profession. It’s also rewarding to help animals in similar ways I was trained to help humans. Translational research opportunities exist and ideas flow back and forth.

    I had been actively seeking other career paths from chef school to dive master to sommelier to wine store owner. Holy cow, I was all over the map and had to check myself on many an occasion. But I was desperate, unhappy, and willing to risk it all. Call, administration interference or lack of action, and increasing loss of control of practice decisions affected me on a daily basis. I had become an employee and I despised it. I was simply a tool to help people. It was no longer rewarding.

    So I decided to let go. Those systemic problems affecting all of medicine were no longer mine. It’s sad that they affect how I deliver health care today. It feels like a reflection on me personally, but it’s a disease of an over burdened system and I had to divorce myself from the guilt and anger I was harboring.

    By stepping back, removing myself from the all immersive daily practices we are all in, I could finally get some perspective. The 30,000 foot view. Regroup, breathe deep, reassess, refresh, reboot.

    Kudos to just “flowing” and letting the process gel as you mold your future, massage it until you get it where you want it. It takes time, deep consideration, and thoughtful decisions which are near impossible in the rat races many of us are stuck in.

    Thank you to your client for sharing and thank you to Doctors Crossing for being a sounding board that probably many more people like myself than you actually know. Good luck to all of you on a similar journey.

    • Heather Fork on February 18, 2016 at 10:12 am

      Craig! Thank you very much for your lovely comments and story. My client and I very much appreciate your support. You are not the first doctor who has looked into a wide range of options – many seem to have interests in cooking, wine, baking, writing, traveling, having a wellness spa or fitness center, etc. Doctors are creative folks and life-long learners. One of the problems (and surprises) in medicine is that after all the years of intense learning and growth, the day-to-day practice can feel very stagnating. Almost like your brain is atrophying in a weird way. You have done a great job at finding your own way through this process. I am cheered to hear that you were able to step back and find a perspective that works for you. These definitely are challenging times, but out of the morass comes greater self-knowledge, innovation, and novel approaches. We can either spend our energy resisting what is happening, or look for opportunity. Good luck to everyone on finding where FLOW wants to lead you. Thank you again Craig.

  7. Christine Chen on March 8, 2016 at 8:54 am


    Great post as usual. It made me think about the word “downsizing,” which is something that most people think of only when planning for retirement, and only with regard to their homes and possessions. However, as this doc showed, sometimes you need to take a step down to feel fulfilled, secure, and happy. Doctors have been taught to be gung-ho strivers, always reaching for the next proverbial “brass ring.” But sometimes the increase in status/prestige/salary isn’t worth the cost to your soul. Diminishing returns.

    Hope you are well! Keep up your amazing work.

    • Heather Fork on March 8, 2016 at 9:45 am

      Christine, thank you so much for your very supportive comments on my client’s blog about his career path. I like your metaphor of the “brass ring.” It is very true that we have been conditioned to keep climbing, climbing, climbing, and somehow feel that to go down the mountain and check out a different view, is somehow wrong or wimping out. What doctors are finding, as you point out, is that there may be something else their soul is longing for, and that may have nothing to do with money or prestige. One of the silver linings of the challenges of medicine, is that it is prompting doctors to step off the hamster wheel long enough to ask some powerful questions, such as, “Does this bring me joy?” And if the answer is “No.” Or “Heck no!” there is a chance to take some action, rather than huffing and puffing at 90 revolutions per minute until they fall off the wheel.

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“I was at a crossroads in my medical career. I asked myself, "Do I stay or do I go?" 

I met Heather at the SEAK conference. She and I revisited this question.  Did I want to quit being medicine completely? She helped me to identify my needs, wants, and my vision for my FUTURE, not just in medicine, but in life!!!

She was able to listen to my "ramblings" about becoming a stand-up comic, lounge singer and voice-over actor and translate them into action steps.  I chose to become a composite of all of these. Now I am a more confident, healthier, happier person. I credit this in its entirety to the tutelage I have received and continue to receive from Heather.  She cares. She listens. She was there for ME.  She will be there for YOU!

- Lynette Charity, MD

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“I am forever grateful to Heather for helping me to recognize, I am more than just my M.D." 

Heather helped me understand that I am more than just a doctor and that my experiences in clinical medicine are valuable in so many arenas.  As a result I realized that there are other ways to use my background, still be able to help people and continue to challenge myself and grow.  To that end I discovered coaching - specifically health coaching.  I am on my journey becoming a health coach and truly loving it!

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What started out as an initial thirty-minute consultation call turned into an amazing four-year journey that transformed my life, personally, spiritually and professionally. 

Heather helped me to discover my doing so, I discovered I still had a calling for medicine but it now came from a place of truth... wife and I are opening our first concierge medicine clinic in a community we love. I’m actually excited to have the opportunity to practice medicine the way I believe it’s meant to be, with a focus on the doctor-patient relationship and an emphasis on faith. I know if I had not reached out to Dr. Fork, my life would not be where it is at today.

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“Heather gave me the confidence to create a new livelihood by following my heart."

She is incredibly knowledgeable about the range of careers available to physicians and provided me with advice and connections which I would not have found on my own.  From the start she encouraged me to step out of my comfort zone and try different things.  I was laid off unexpectedly in early 2017, and Heather gave me the confidence to create a new livelihood by following my heart and making decisions based on trust, not fear.  Now I am enjoying working part-time in a clinical setting in addition to teaching and writing.

- Sue Zimmermann, MD

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Devki Patel

After months of struggling to find a non-clinical career that matched my values and passion, I stumbled upon Heather's website which truly changed my life."

Heather's insightful and personalized approach to career coaching made me think outside the box since she took the time to evaluate my personality, values, interests, and preferred lifestyle.

Through her encouragement, practical advice, and professional connections, I was able to find a non-clinical position at a state Medicaid agency that aligned with my passion for population health and serving low-income communities. In addition to her coaching sessions, Heather has built a community of like-minded physicians through her blog, and I feel honored to recommend her to friends and colleagues who seek to make positive changes in their professional and personal lives.

- Devki Patel, MD

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Working with Heather ultimately helped me leave my job in corporate healthcare and find a path that was much more fulfilling."

My career was going reasonably well but I couldn’t shake this nagging feeling I could do better; or at least find a better long-term career fit.  

I was able to find a surgery job that better aligned with my goals and professional interests.  Additionally, Heather helped me start a consulting business which has allowed me to pursue a true passion: helping medical students, residents, and attendings surgeons navigate the challenges of high-stakes standardized exams.    

If you are reading this as a “Type A” surgeon who doesn’t think coaching is for you, I would encourage you to give Heather a shot.  I’m very glad I did!

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“I gained the confidence in myself to develop an action plan that blended the best parts of my experiences and interests into a cohesive career." 

Through our work, I learned to trust myself to make good decisions for my own future – something I hadn’t realized I was struggling with because as an emergency physician, I make life-changing decisions with patients every day. 

By feeding my creativity and interests in other realms of my professional life, I’ve found renewed compassion for my patients and myself, making every shift an opportunity to actually care for people. Thank you Heather. I really couldn’t have made these changes without your help!

- Liz McMurtry, DO

Emergency Medicine Physician

The simple truth is - Heather Fork totally helped me change my life."

I never would have had the courage to make the changes I’ve made without her unwavering support, wealth of knowledge and commitment. 

When I first started working with Heather, I was downtrodden...I’d been practicing medicine for 20+ years and yet had never quite found my place.  During the first year I worked with Heather, I left the practice I’d been working at, and recreated an entirely new professional purpose.

I’m now an executive and leadership coach, a university professor, and a Brené Brown Daring Way facilitator, and I have never looked back.  I love what I am doing more than at any other time in my professional life and I credit Heather with seeing in me what I was never able to see in myself, until now.

Don’t hesitate, don’t doubt yourself, schedule your time with Heather as soon as possible- she can help you reconnect to your purpose and reinvent your life.

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"After 30 years in academic medicine, I wanted a career change but had no idea where to start. Medicine was all I knew."

I signed up for coaching with Heather and it transformed my life. She helped me get clear on what I wanted my life to look like. We reviewed my skills, values, and strengths. She instilled hope in me that change IS possible after 50 years! 

The outcome is that I have created a life I love! I practice endocrinology part-time and own a life coaching business! Coaching with Heather is one of the best investments I have made in my life. 

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"Heather was my source of hope during a time when I felt stuck and confused. She gave me the permission and confidence to reach higher than I believed I could."

After graduating from residency and starting a family, I lost sight of why I became a physician. I struggled to convince myself to stay in a career that was clearly the wrong fit for me and my family. My anxiety about work was at an all-time high when I reached out to Heather. She provided something that my mentors, friends, and family could not – rather than just offering career advice, she changed the way I think about my life so that I could understand how my career would fit into it. I realized I wasn’t ready to give up on medicine and eventually found a job in academic medicine. I finally feel that excitement for medicine that I used to feel when I was in training. More importantly, I feel like I can be the role model to my young daughter who may one day also face similar challenges between career and family. Thank you, Heather, for all your kindness, support, and skillful coaching! The experience was life-changing!

- Yuri Shindo, MD

Internal Medicine Physician
Camille Gardner-Beasley

"As a Physician, your personal and even professional needs are often overlooked. I learned how to prioritize my career goals by working with Dr. Heather Fork."

She taught me how to put into practice what I knew in theory, that taking care of myself was a priority. I learned to give myself permission to make the career choices that would give me the work-life balance I desperately craved and needed. The process of confronting fears and insecurities was a bit scary, but well worth it in the end. I am now a happier version of myself with a non-clinical job that I truly enjoy!

- Camille Gardner-Beasley, MD

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"After 10 years in outpatient family medicine I felt stuck and knew I needed a change but I didn’t know where to begin. Thankfully I found Heather and she guided me every step of the way."

She helped me carefully assess my interests, strengths and passions while also providing me with constructive changes to implement in my job search and resume. With Heather’s help, I just landed a fully remote UM position and I am also exploring coaching as well. Now I feel like the possibilities are endless and I’m excited for this next chapter in the nonclinical world! Thank you Heather for changing my life for the better.

- Ana Jacobellis, DO


"I'm truly thankful to have had the opportunity to be coached by Heather, she is not only a resourceful mentor but a wise and supportive friend. I'm honored to recommend Heather to all my friends and colleagues."

I had been a practicing Internist for 20 years when I reached a point when I needed to make a serious change in my career path. While I enjoyed seeing patients, I was not satisfied with my life-work balance. My job was taking me away from my family and left me little time and energy to do other things that are important and meaningful to me. I came across Dr. Fork's podcast; The Doctor's Crossing Carpe Diem Podcast, it is such an informative and enjoyable podcast for any physician who wants to do more with their career and life in general. Then I had the pleasure to get career coaching from Heather, it was truly an amazing experience. Heather has broad knowledge of all the different career paths that are available for physicians, she is so insightful and very easy to talk to. She helped me clarify my goals, examine my own mindset and definition of success. Together we developed a clear plan and actionable steps to reach these goals. I eventually made a career transition to a remote non-clinical position that allows me to do meaningful work which aligns with my personal and professional goals and priorities. 

- Abbey Awad, MD

Internal Medicine

"There have been a handful of people who have come into my life and changed it, and Heather is one of those people."

From the very first interaction with Heather, it became abundantly clear that she possessed a systematic approach and a methodology firmly rooted in my focusing on my goals and aspirations. Heather's coaching sessions helped me dismantle limiting beliefs and unearth the capable woman, mother, and physician within me. Under Heather's guidance, I began to dream again. I rediscovered my passion for writing, found the courage to share my stories, and even launched my own coaching practice. Today, I specialize in helping others conquer imposter syndrome and overcome burnout, empowering them to lead meaningful and fulfilling lives. Working with Heather fundamentally shifted my perspective and allowed me to show up authentically in every facet of my life, resulting in a profound sense of fulfillment.

I am deeply grateful that I can continue my work in the emergency department and serve my community as a physician as well as a coach. Working with Heather was a transformative gift that enabled me to rediscover my true self, find clarity in my life's purpose, and unlock my full potential. Through her guidance, I not only reignited the powerful, confident, and bold version of myself I had lost sight of but also realized the boundless possibilities that lay ahead.

- Maria Dominguez 

Emergency physician and coach