What’s hard about getting help?

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Today I want to talk about getting the help you need.

But first, I want to share some news. 

You may recall my cat Remy, my Virtual Assistant who does virtually nothing?

Well, he’s been furloughed, no pun intended. And he can’t pull the COVID card. He’s just.. well….. a cat! 

So I went searching far and wide for his replacement and hit the jackpot. 

I found a wonderful gal who doesn’t leave hair all over the place, nap on my desk or bring lizards in the cat door. 

She’s actually never been near my desk or my home. 

Her name is Kati O’Brien and she lives far away in Maine. She came on board at the beginning of May and already she’s a game-changer. 

When I told Remy his services (such as they were) were no longer needed,  he did something rather odd in a desperate plea to keep his job.

He assumed the “Can Kati Do This?” dead cat position:

Having never seen him do this before, ever, it made me realize that in spite of his lackluster performance and low RVU count, he didn’t want to be let go. Not saying he wanted to work…

I told him he could come back on probationary status and we’ll reevaluate in a month. He didn’t look too concerned. 

But back to Kati! I really want you to meet her and get to know her. She is now an integral part of the Doctor’s Crossing and here to help you. I asked her to write a little something for you, 

“Hi! My name is Kati and I’m an online business manager and systems strategist. I was excited at this opportunity to work with Heather because I loved her story and the work that she does. I spent years in jobs that were unfulfilling so I know what it’s like to be unhappy with where you are, but also not sure how to move forward. I think everyone deserves to be happy and fulfilled in their career and I know that if it’s on your mind and in your heart then it is 100% possible for you. 

I’m also an Enneagram 6, which Heather has informed me many of you are as well – so I think I can relate to you on many levels! 

Some fun facts about me: I’m a mom to two kids living in Maine, but hate the snow! I’m a former health coach, and still so passionate about wellness & plant-based foods. I dream of one day traveling the world with my family. 

I’m excited to get to assist Heather and hopefully will have some interactions with you all 🙂 “

And here she is!

I’m super happy to have Kati onboard. I feel like a bit of a Sisyphean weight has been lifted. I love what I do, but I wasn’t moving forward the way I wanted to climbing alone. 

Which brings me to the other topic of the day which is getting help.

I’ve seen first-hand the high cost of delaying getting help and I don’t want this to happen to you and the things that are most important to YOU. 

I like to put getting help into two categories:

Figuring it out kind of help.

Freeing you up kind of help. 

Figuring it out helps you with the HOW to do something. Freeing you up helps create the time and space to do what’s important to you. Rocket science, I know!

Sometimes we need one of these, sometimes both.

What kind of help do you need?

Do you want to:

  • Start a blog, a podcast, or do YouTube videos?
  • Create an online course or try out a new business idea?
  • Get out of medicine?
  • Have someone shop or do food prep for you?
  • Organize your house and files once and for all?
  • Just be happier – yes, we can use help for this too!

These are just a few of a gazillion things you might want some help for.

There are so many ways to get help these days, YouTube, online courses, podcasts, books, FB groups, virtual assistants, mentors, your pets (that depends), and so on. 

(FYI – you can hire a virtual assistant for as little as a few hours a week to do things like pay your bills, schedule appointments, plan trips, job search for you, shop online, etc. This is an exploding area for help).

A lack of available help is not usually the biggest problem. 

The bigger problem is often two-fold: 

Not making yourself a priority and procrastinating on finding help.

It makes me upset when I talk to physicians who are working so hard to care for patients and support their families that they don’t prioritize their own needs. They may have a notion they need something different but they feel selfish making themselves a priority.

If you don’t make yourself a priority, at some point it’s going to catch up with you. 

It’s easy to procrastinate on finding help. I definitely am guilty of this regarding help for my business. 

Procrastination can come in the form of a tar baby in your mind with all the sticky questions:

Where do I even go to look for help?
How do I know if this person (or resource) will help me?
Will I just be wasting my money?
Maybe I can just do it myself for a little longer. 

I’ve definitely wasted some moolah this year trying to get help. For example, the business coach I paid several thousand dollars to who wanted me to call myself “The Physician Lifeguard,” or alternatively, “The Physician Mechanic” and didn’t understand why that wasn’t going to work for my clients.

And then there’s the program I bought to help me learn how to put outfits together and shop. (I’m embarrassed to admit I bought this course, but if you read the blog about my website photoshoot you know I have a very limited wardrobe and hate shopping. The program is a good one, but I can’t seem to find the time for it.)

If I learned anything from my mistakes getting help, it’s to just start and know it won’t be perfect but it will get the ball rolling. 

I can’t prove this, and you don’t need to agree with me, but I believe that just taking some steps to get help for yourself signals to the universe that you’re ready for more. And things will start to happen in a positive way that are bigger than your own efforts. 

Drop me a line and tell me how you’re making yourself a priority. Tell me what you need help with and I’ll do my best to share some resources with you!. 

No need to go it alone! 

Thanks for reading and being a part of this community.  

A big welcome to our new readers and to our Kati!

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